62 Day Challenge – Followup

62 Days Later…

Back in June, I issued a challenge to my readers to have sex every day for from June 15th to August 15thThe 62 Day Challenge.

Been There..Done That

Who out there took the challenge?

What did you find?

What was your favourite part?

Allow me to say that I have a general rule wherein I do not reveal the nitty-gritty’s of my sex life with Eric because it is, well, ours. However, I do think it is important to highlight some of the things we learned throughout the challenge. So here are some of my thoughts on the past two months.

  1. We figured out very soon into the challenge that with this level of consistency, there was no such thing as “a quickie”. This side effect had its pros and cons. On the pro side, it gave us the time – indeed it forced us – to be creative. Sex very simply could not be the same old routine because one of the basic elements – time – had changed. On the con side, I needed to be prepared all the time. Bottles of lubricant were omnipresent.
  2. A broken foot is very difficult to work around. Early in the challenge I fell and broke my foot. Everyone has assumed I was doing something kinky during the challenge but the true story is very dull – I tripped over Eric’s slippers. I have to be honest and admit that in the early days when the break was fresh, I chose to bond with the Extra Strength Advil rather than bonding sexually with my husband. Having said that, the pain does abate over time and it is possible to have sex with a cast on. Just for the record.
  3. Gastro-intestinal viruses and sex do not mix. There is just a “yuck” factor of having sex with all the physical manifestations of such a virus. Enough said.
  4. Skype sex is a fun concept for long distance intimacy unless you are staying at someone’s house. The mood is quickly doused when the hostess wants to talk to you as much as your husband does. Especially when he is staying in the living room on the couch.
  5. We both loved the fact that sex was a given. Instead of doing the initiation dance (who is going to initiate and when is s/he going to do it?) it was an unspoken agreement that it would just happen. Both of us were working towards the goal of getting it done. It brought a heightened sense of teamwork into this part of our relationship.
  6. Our desire to have sex grew. The more we had, the more we wanted. I was a bit surprised by this development. I thought I would be satiated the more I had, but the reverse actually took place. This made me do quite a bit of contemplation on the “use it or lose it” theory.
  7. Finally, we had fun. We laughed more, joked together more, flirted more, and enjoyed each other more. That alone was worth the price of admission.

Do you have any stories to tell? You have the advantage of being anonymous, so let us know if anything outrageous, hilarious or even sweet happened with you and your lover during the challenge.  (and even if you didn’t take the challenge, feel free to share why you didn’t or what kept you from it – we’re all friends here an nobody judges!!)

3 replies
  1. Roberta
    Roberta says:

    We learned that chronic illness limits these things far more than we had realised, despite living with it for many years (close to 15 now). The challenge also create a lot of opportunities for conversation, and it was helpful for us to articulate some things about the sexual side of our sexual relationship that we may not have otherwise.

    Thanks for a thought-provoking (and fun:)) exercise!

    • Eryn-Faye Frans
      Eryn-Faye Frans says:

      I am so glad that this exercise helped open up new lines of communication and conversation! Sometimes it is the stuff that we are closest to and have lived with the longest that we stop talking about. Good for you guys for taking the challenge, and thanks so much for sharing some of what you learned with us!

  2. RustyBadger
    RustyBadger says:

    Heh. I ain’t sayin’ NUTHIN’. Except I will say, you shoulda made it the ’69-Day Challenge’. I’m just sayin’.

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