Finding the G-Spot

For those of you who have been paying attention to this site, you may have noticed that I have begun to move towards a weekly focused theme on the site.  Each Monday the Passion Poll asks a question, which introduces the subject of the week.  I try to put up an article that gives some specific information regarding the subject, and the P.O.W. (Product of the Week) is always something that can help you explore this topic a little more thoroughly.  The blog portion is intended to add some anecdotal information about the subject.  All of this is intentional. I want you to be able to gain depth of insight on each of these issues; be on the lookout to learn something you might have never learned before; or be reminded of something that you have forgotten. And most importantly, have something that you can put into practice this week with your spouse.

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As you have probably noticed, this week, the subject is the often spoken about, sometimes elusive, but truly amazing: female G-spot. Named after the German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg who discovered it in the 1950’s, the G-spot is a patch of tissue that is similar in nature to the tissue inside the head of the man’s penis. It is about the size of a dime when the woman is not aroused, but as she becomes so, it grows to the size of a quarter. It is located 1-3 inches inside the vagina, to the front (so it you are lying down, it is towards the top of your body). Every woman’s body is different, but the G-spot will be in the same general vicinity.  This diagram might be helpful for you to understand its whereabouts:

Because it is located in close proximity to the urethra, when the G-spot is touched many women interpret the feeling as the need to use the bathroom. (If this makes you uncomfortable, empty your bladder before embarking on any G-spot finding expeditions!) As you continue to stimulate the G-spot, this sensation fades and gives way to another sensation. Some women find the find the new sensation mildly pleasant, others find it arousing, and still others find intense and orgasmic pleasure. Women in the latter category have described the G-spot orgasm to me as “the exorcist orgasm” or a “full body heaving”. While the clitoral orgasm seems to be centralized around the pelvic region, the G-spot orgasm emanates throughout the whole body.

Some women who achieve a G-spot orgasm will also have “female ejaculation”. (They will often come up to me with a shy smile and whisper, “I squirt!”) This ejaculate comes out of the urethra and so women are often afraid that they have urinated in the bed. However, this fluid is completely different than urine. It is clear (vs. yellow), it has a sweet smell (vs. pungent), and it won’t stain your bed sheets. Having said all of this, there can be quite a bit of it, so I always recommend that you are prepared for the possibility with some towels on your bed just to make the clean up easier.

If I have you curious, and you want to embark on a hunt for your G-spot, here are some thoughts on finding it. It is a process - it takes time, experience and a high degree of comfort with your body and your lover to experience orgasm through this form of stimulation. Most women report that they are very relaxed and highly aroused when they experience this type of orgasm for the first time. If you are using fingers, it can be difficult to find on your own, but if your husband inserts two fingers inside of you, and strokes the G-spot in a firm “come hither” motion, this can be extremely successful. Many women have also found that using a vibrator is most helpful, especially as they are just learning to find it, because the toy will put firm pressure on the area. There are many that are made specifically for this purpose.  I can recommend these few specifically.  Finally, let me encourage you…even if it takes time to find, don’t give up!  If you allow yourself, you will enjoy the journey as well as the destination.