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The Delightful World of Shoes as Foreplay

To my sheer delight, I ran across some fascinating scientific information last night in my reading of The Brain in Love by Dr. Daniel Amen. “In the brain, the sensory area of the foot is right next door to the sensory area for the clitoris. Unknowingly, women often feel that buying shoes is like foreplay.” Finally, proof for what I have been telling Eric for all these years!

I announced this revelation on my Facebook page and it lit up like a Christmas tree. (One that is impeccably decorated and lacking the God-awful elf dangling front and center.) Women rushed to share their endorsement of this statement. It seems I am not the only one with a deep fondness for shoes.

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In fact, S. Rachman and R.J. Hodgson, two sex researchers conducting studies in 1968, decided to try and create a shoe fetish in male test subjects using Pavlov’s theory of conditioning. It worked. The men became aroused simply from the sight of shoes after the experiment was over. While knee-high boots and high-heeled black shoes seemed effective, “no man got an erection from looking at brown string sandals.” Thank you to Mary Roach who wrote the brilliant book Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex and shared this tidbit with us.

The moral of the story? Men, let your wives buy as many shoes as they want. Women, stay away from brown string sandals.

3 Ways to Help Your Wife Orgasm

In this short Q&A, Eryn-Faye, Canada’s Passion Coach, answers an audience member’s question about how to help your wife orgasm.

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Hint #13

On average, less than 30% of women can achieve orgasm during intercourse.  So, chances are three to one that you are not one of them, an that’s a-ok.  The reason for this is simple.  Women generally need their clitoris stimulated in order to achieve orgasm.  Therefore, sexual positions that increase friction on and around the clitoris are more likely to boost you into that 30% ranking – or just bend the rules and add some manual stimulation there too.  Often, the best motion for clitoral stimulation is one that moves around the clitoris rather than one that applies direct pressure.

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