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It’s Amazing What You Can Find on TV
I was probably one of the few people who actually loved the TV show, Lipstick Jungle starring Brooke Shields, Kim Raver, and Lindsay Price. In fact, judging by how quickly it got canceled, I might have been the only one! To me, it was the grown up version of Sex in the City. The ladies in Lipstick Jungle were a bit older, very focused on their careers, and yet dealt with the complexities of balancing their work persona with being wives, moms and lovers.
In one of my favourite episodes, Nico deliberates about getting a collagen injection into her G-spot so that she could increase the pleasure in her sex life. The whole episode centers around her internal debate – is it safe? Will it really work? Does it make me slutty? How do I even find it? (She has to give serious thought to this latter question after the nurse tells her that the doctor prefers it if his patients do their personal “market research” ahead of time so they can tell him exactly where their G-spot is at the time of the procedure!) In the end, the writers she decides that it is too intriguing an option to pass up. The audience sees her in the cab ride home afterward, and every time the cab hits a bump, she gets a wider and wider smile on her face.
Believe it or not, this procedure is actually real. More and more women are visiting doctors who take needles, insert them into the G-spot, and inject collagen. Collagen swelled lips are evidently passé; we have now moved onto our G-spots!!
Once the procedure takes effect (just minutes and supposedly you can have sex 4 hours later!), the G-spot swells to the size of a quarter and grows very sensitive to stimulation. They say that a majority of women report enhanced sexual sensation after the procedure. One press release advertises that you can have the procedure in the morning, and “experience intense multiple orgasms tonight”!
So why isn’t every woman rushing out to get this procedure done? Well, I would assume that getting a vaginal injection is not high on ladies’ priority lists. And then, even if you can suppress the fear factor of having a needle inserted up your hoo-hoo, you will be shelling out a lot of money (anywhere between $1800-$2500) and the effects can wear off in less than 4 months.
In case you need me to do the math for you, that’s over $450 a month (on the cheap end) for multiple orgasms. Now, I am a huge proponent of making an investment into your sex life, but that is a bit much for me – especially when there is a risk of it not working for you. And I didn’t even go looking for on-line stories of the procedure going horribly wrong.
I personally, just couldn’t justify it. If I want to increase feeling and intensity in the G-spot, I would just use G-spot Crème (which happens to be the product of the week…I know, convenient, right?). The crème is cheaper, non-invasive and doesn’t require a doctor or anesthetic. What’s not to love about that?!
Anyway, the point of this post is simply to note the extremes that some women are willing to go to in order to attempt to enhance their sexual experiences. Some ladies are willing to pay a lot of money and have surgical procedures done over and over again to find that elusive sexual nirvana. So, my question, for those brave enough to answer:
what is the most “extreme” thing you have done in an attempt to increase your sexual experience? And…did it work for you?
(keep in mind that everyone’s “extreme” is different. I am not simply looking for salacious stories, I honestly want to know if you have tried things to spice up your sex life.)
Doctor Prescribed Sex
My husband and I have been trying to have a second child now for three years. It took us a year and a half to conceive our daughter, and we figured that since we had obviously figured out how to do it, it would be easy the second time. WRONG! Although all our tests are clean, we have not been able to “get one past the goalie” as my husband so eloquently puts it.
Not too long ago, we decided that we would take our trying to the next level and follow our doctor’s advice to go on Clomid, the fertility drug that is prescribed to a lot of women in my situation. As we were chatting with the doctor, I decided to be frank and asked, “So, doc, is this the drug that will turn me into a raving lunatic?” She laughed and diplomatically said, “Well, there can be some side effects with the increase of hormones in your system.” She then proceeded to give us the instructions on how to take the drugs. “Take them from days 3-7 and then have sex on days 8, 10, 12, 14, 16, and 18.” Turning to my husband, she then said, “If you have any business trips to take, schedule them for the rest of her cycle.” And then she gave him a very sympathetic smile. Humm. I suppose this was her way of being more direct to my earlier question. We got a good giggle and left the office to follow her instructions.
Now, for all of you out there who are thinking “I wish I could have sex that often!” let me say that doctor prescribed sex is not all it’s cracked up to be. In fact, it is awful. It turns something that is supposed to be fun, pleasurable and even spiritual into a chore that needs to be ticked off your “to-do” list. You have to do it (or else you feel guilty for not doing your best to get pregnant), you can’t use lubricant (it kills the sperm), and there is no cuddling afterwards (your bum is stuck up in the air on a pillow). Add that to the hormonal changes you go through if you are on the fertility drugs, and ups and downs you feel as you hope, hope, hope and then are disappointed, and the whole experience can really make your sex life take a nose-dive.
In my business as a Passion Coach, many women have come to me to discuss the ramifications of infertility on their sex lives. Their stories are remarkably similar. They speak about the fact that their minds are constantly on getting pregnant, which makes it very difficult to be romantic and stay in the mood because their mind keeps wandering to whether or not this will be the time that they conceive. They are constantly thinking about what day it is, and whether their period is going to come this month or not. Some husbands feel so much pressure that they cannot get and maintain an erection (which, of course, frustrates both them and their wives!). And underling all of their experiences – the waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting.
So, how do we maintain good sex lives in the midst of all of this? Here are a few suggestions:
- Add variety to love-making (change rooms or the time of day that you have sex, add candles or music, play strip poker, etc.)
- Make sure to have sex even on days which are not “doctor prescribed” so that your sexual relationship isn’t completely tied to the task of procreation
- Find some friends or a support group to talk to so that you don’t feel isolated during this time
- Try to find the humor in the midst of attempts to conceive (ie: read a funny yet honest blog, allow yourself to laugh)
- Take steps to reduce stress in your life (ie: physical exercise, learn stress reduction techniques such as yoga, choose to try to conceive during times of lower stress in your career, and laugh (see point above)
- Explore other options like adoption, IVF, or acupuncture
- Set a time period of “trying” interspersed with a period of taking a break (and really take the break – toss out the charts, put away the thermometer, stop tracking your cycle)
- As best as possible, make peace with the concept of not having a biological child
But at the end of the day, the thing to remember through this is what originally drove this whole thing – a desire to come together as a couple in the deepest of ways. I say that we need to remember that because in the midst of “baby making sex” it is easy to forget to make love. And that is what this is all about really. The intent of the exercise is to fall deeper in love with your spouse, so don’t let it become a wedge that drives you apart.
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